If you get up and go to the gym every morning you risk other saying “wow”…..they must have all the time in the world. They must not have a “job”.
No one who has a job could possibly make time for their own health.
This does not happen.
If you take time to get your nails done in the daytime GASP why weren’t you doing the laundry ….or scouring the countryside for local organically grown produce to accompany your grass fed chicken dinner?
Its TABOO to talk openly and unashamedly about taking time for oneself
Won’t other parents look down on you?
Especially if your house is a shambles, your kids don’t all have “A”s, your kids aren’t super stars in sports, your kids have not gone to piano, voice lessons, ballet, soccer, hockey and French lessons?????
After all everyone else in your family should come FIRST or you are not a PROPER Mom
Where does sentiment this come from?
Almost all of our Clients struggle with this
They feel pressure from the spilling over laundry basket, the junk piled up in the doorway, the piles of notes from school, HAVING TO WALK THE DOG SOMETIMES TWICE A DAY,
Endless meal making
They just don’t make time for themselves or their own health
But why?
This is not their fault
Moms have always been held responsible for the home. And since women went back to work the guilt just built and built. So many conflicting things pulling in many directions.
Here are some ways to deal with Mom guilt
Make peace with Mom guilt
Having a peaceful relationship with the guilt will reduce the power it holds over you
Invest in yourself
You are still a human being who is worth investing in. Its very easy to justify not spending money or time on yourself. But what does that get you? Does it make you healthier? A good role model? So spend time doing your workout, taking a course, having date night.
And speaking of Role Models
You are modeling self care for your children. If they don’t see you investing anytime into yourself what will they do?
According to a study from McMaster University ‘Parents are the most important role models to young children and modeling healthy living habits has the potential to influence your children’s lifestyle”.
Keep in mind that you are a positive influence when you model self care
Children learn from seeing what their parents do. It is more likely that if we are active our kids will continue to be active
So why would we feel guilty about modeling a positive activity?
Another study shows that parents who were a healthy weight were 3.7 more times likely to have a child of healthy weight
Plan your day & block time for yourself first
I have a client who is very creative and she regularly colour codes all her activities on her calendar. In a very nice book she writes in all her appointments. Blue for work, grey for chores, red for family time.
We had an amazing break through meeting where we figured out how she was demoting her own time.
SHE WAS colour coding her self time as a CHORE
In other words she was colour coding her workouts as “grey” and a chore.
When we realized what she was doing she decided to create a new colour code for her own self time by using her favourite colour-a beautiful spring green. By doing this she changed her mindset from workouts are a chore to workouts are important and I enjoy the time I get to myself.
So set up your calendar blocking off your time. Ok you have hard this before. But here is something to add to this. Do not put your me time at a risky point in the day. A time when things often get out of whack. Put it FIRST!! Then it cant be taken away from you
Ok back to the guilt
,,,…investing in yourself is GOOD for your family
…..Investing in yourself makes you a happier person
…..It makes you a better role model
…..It means that your kids will grow up healthier…..and who doesn’t want that?
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